The Bride-To-Be: A different phase of life!

The reminiscences of my past are still as spanking new as the first rain drop. I am actually unaware of how these many eons flew away in my laughter, whimper, and mischief, being loved by one and all and adoring life every split second. Its not that I did not have a poignant day ever since I was born, but, I lived to my fullest all the time.

Roopa wearing a short red (or maybe maroon) skirt, with neatly polished black shoes and high pony tails with red (again, I am confused about color) ribbon carrying a heavy school bag exists for me even at the present. With each passing day, she had grown into a young lady running behind all mesmerizing things under the sky, always wanting the best for herself. She was now very composed, confident, fun loving, always smiling, and bubbly girl. She possessed a cozy world in some corner of earth and she was happily dwelling there fantasizing about all that her tiny brain could think of. She was always jumping with joy and trying to reach the sky. She never thought of settling in life.

[Yet, a few things never changed!! She still loves anything with chocolates and chilies in it. She still hates (or rather scared of) insects with large wings (cockroaches... yuk). She still hopes and wishes one day there will be no crime happening in the world. She still expects that there will be a day coming in future when everyone on earth is going to be happy, with no signs of grief. She still gets confused !@#$&*** if given too many choices.]

And today, I sit back and summon up my childhood. Because, in the present day I am heading towards a new tomorrow. Until this minute, I have always been a pampered princess, both at home and workplace. Not anything has been shaking for me; I have always pushed my way ahead. Again, it doesn’t mean that today I have something creepy to come up. But yeah, unquestionably, the advance that has been happening since past few days has caused a stirring effect in my life!!

Whoa!! I will be shortly getting married!!!! Yeah! Yeah! It’s no big deal, each one of us does get married one day. But, for me it is a BIG deal. Because, earlier to all this, I was a diverse person than what I am today!

It was a tough nut to crack. My parents, my family, my friends, and all my well-wishers had to put a lot of effort to make me say yes. I would always walk away from the place whenever people spoke of marriage. Although I had a few crushes way back in college and few more in my workplace, I never got into the mode of wedding with anyone. So, when I unwillingly said yes, all the time my heart was praying that I should not get a right match.

On that day, I got out of my house to go to office. The first thing I saw was a newly wed couple, who happen to be my neighbor!! They greeted me with a wonderful smile as I started my vehicle. And all the way to my office, I did not have a hint of what took place afterwards. As usual, I was listening to music, and watching people around, gazing into my watch subsequently, cursing the Bangalore traffic and managing to cover the remaining distance sooner. And to my surprise, most of the people I saw around were couple – happily (??) married couple!! I found that fact interesting. My thought process had already begun to raise a lot of questions to me.

After reaching office, although I was occupied with work, my mind was engaged in thoughts of marriage and its significance. Fortunately or unfortunately, I had an accident the same evening, on my way home. Was bed ridden the next day. The entire day, I laid down and thought of marriage!! I could not believe it that a girl like me could think of marriage for one long day. Its then, I realized what it means to have a companion for life. What it feels like to have someone who would love me so much that he would spend his lifetime with me!! The thought was mind blowing. It had its own beauty and colors. I was impressed by its magical appearance. I could see myself as a happily married woman, leading a contented life with a family of my own. Felt proud!! There was nothing finer than that at that moment.

Now my decision for marriage was MY DECISION. I was more than excited. But…, ifs and buts are always there in everyone’s life and I am no exception. I had loads of happiness in the thought of being married and more of doubts about my would-be life partner. What if I don’t find the right person?? Again, it is a matter of lifetime. And, how will I find how RIGHT he is for me?? Obsessed with all these thoughts, I was counting the days to Shravana (We don’t do anything auspicious in the month of Ashada).

Who knew that I was blessed with a lovely day even before my wait is over!!! Unexpectedly, we got a call on one fine weekend (Saturday) that a guy by name Deepak is interested in my profile and would be coming to see me the next day. The picture is still clear in front of my eyes. I was waving my hand asking my dad to say ‘NO’. I was not mentally prepared and neither did I have any details about the guy apart from his name and education. But, he had seen my complete profile and photograph. Above all, the next day, Sunday morning, we were again told that the guy wants to meet me outside!! That was shocking for me. I had to meet him outside my comfort zone, HOME!! I tried all possible ways to avoid going. I acted as if I have fallen sick. But, nothing worked.

I was taken to the match maker’s house. I saw the guy there. The first thing I noticed was his Venus dimple, which was as cute as his simple smile. I went out with him to a coffee day and we sat there for over an hour. All the while I was pretty nervous and he spoke of his business (How boring he could be to explain that to a girl!? In the first meet!! I thought). I did not understand most of the things he tried to explain to me. But, his attitude, his approach, his elegant smile and the cute dimple, and the way he tried to put me to comfort was one of its kinds. Undoubtedly, he had gained my confidence in the first meet!!

Second was even better! I started liking him. I noticed his eyes. They had mischief, love, care, brightness and joy in them. I was impressed. I loved the duo. The way he maintained dignity in the relationship, although he knew what we were meeting for was also prominent.

The third, the fourth and so on.. It started getting better each time. Gradually, unknowingly, I had fallen in love with him!! Amazing experience it was. It had given me a tremendous happiness :) I reached cloud number nine!! And dint want to look down.

After having met his family- his mom, brother, sister (Note: I have just spoken to her over phone and yet I say MET), I was clear what I was blessed with!! God had paid all my dues. Later, both the families formally met up and expressed their consent for the relationship. And the dates were decided.

And today, when I sit and eagerly wait for that BIG day, I only feel very lucky and proud that I have Deepak as my (the most understanding) life partner! And a new phase of my life has just begun…